Judith Barrington's Writing the Memoir
Chapter 3
Chronological, essays, skipping through time, interspersed non-fiction — there are so many forms that memoir can take. Judith Barrington covers several in her book, Writing the Memoir, and in this episode we discuss the options, and which one is best for your memoir. As a bonus, Renee shares an exercise she’s come up with for finding your memoir’s theme.
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The Writing Exercise
Write a very short (not more than two pages) memoir about someone outside your family from you childhood. Include you perspective both as a child and as who you are now.
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Finding Form
In this chapter, we experience flashbacks of a previous season when we read Jack Bickham’s (aka, the Bullet Point King) book, Scene and Structure. However, Barrington is a bit more general (no bullet points involved here), giving a sweeping set of examples to explain the different options open to you, Dear Memoirist, as you decide how best to tell your (true) story.
The Different Shapes of Memoir
Of course technical strategies from fiction play a large role in a memoir, such as scene, summary, flashbacks, etc. While Bickham has a preprogrammed set of tricks up his sleeve (ie, notecards) to simulate life in a novel by weaving together the elements plot and character, memoir requires different tricks. Since you can’t change the events of your life to up the stakes, you must look to structure the truth to engage your readers.
Although Barrington doesn’t teach us out to utilize these shapes, to best fit our story, she does illustrate some of the choices you may choose to use for your memoir.
Memoirs in Chronological Narrative
Esmerelda Santiago’s When I was a Puerto Rican is a coming of age story written in chronological form.
In this first volume of her much-praised, bestselling trilogy, Santiago brilliantly recreates the idyllic landscape and tumultuous family life of her earliest years and her tremendous journey from the barrio to Brooklyn, from translating for her mother at the welfare office to high honors at Harvard.
Michelle Zauner’s Crying in H Mart reads very much like a novel.
Michelle Zauner tells of growing up one of the few Asian American kids at her school in Eugene, Oregon; of struggling with her mother’s particular, high expectations of her; of a painful adolescence; of treasured months spent in her grandmother’s tiny apartment in Seoul, where she and her mother would bond, late at night, over heaping plates of food.
Although each chapter zeroes in on one important event at a time, Jeanette Walls’ The Glass Castle moves through her life in order.
The Glass Castle is truly astonishing–a memoir permeated by the intense love of a peculiar but loyal family. The Walls children learned to take care of themselves. They fed, clothed, and protected one another, and eventually found their way to New York. Their parents followed them, choosing to be homeless even as their children prospered.
Memoir as a Collection of Essays
Paul Monette’s Last Watch of the Night is a collection of essays tied together by the author’s battle with AIDS.
I give them fair warning I for one am taking it all personally-too personally, in fact. Keeping a file of mealiness, of pandering to creeps, of accommodation with the enemy. I don’t really have the choice to ignore it, because it’s happening on my watch.
-Paul Monette
Julia Koets’ The Rib Joint is a collection of essays gathered under a theme of coming out.
This memoir-in-essays draws from mythology, religion, popular culture, and personal experience to examine how coming out is not a one-time act.
Wibbly Wobbly Timey Wimey Memoirs
Memoirs that Play with Time
Vivian Gornick’s’s Fierce Attachments leaps back and forth in time, anchored by a single event: the author taking a walk with her mother.
As Gornick walks with her aged mother through the streets of New York, arguing and remembering the past, each wins the reader’s admiration: the caustic and clear-thinking daughter, for her courage and tenacity in really talking to her mother about the most basic issues of their lives, and the still powerful and intuitively-wise old woman, who again and again proves herself her daughter’s mother.
Richard Hoffman’s Half the House leaps from three to four dates, sometimes backwards sometimes forwards. Each chapter is titled by the year.
Richard Hoffman recalls his boyhood in postwar, blue collar Allentown, PA, a world of breweries and ballfields, by turns idyllic and brutal. He depicts his family’s struggles to maintain their dignity while caring for two of his brothers, who are terminally ill, and reveals how, under such circumstances, hope and denial become one; love and rage are inextricably fused; and silence and unreality threaten.
Memoirs with Research
Chloe Caldwell’s The Red Zone: A Love Story series of personal essay about menstruation supported with research.
Compelled to understand the truth of what’s happening to her every month, Chloe documents attitudes toward menstruation among her peers and family, reads Reddit threads about PMS, goes on antidepressants, goes off antidepressants, goes on antidepressants again, attends a conference called Break the Cycle, and learns about premenstrual dysphoric disorder, PMDD, which helps her name what she’s been going through.
Gretel Ehrlich’s A Match to the Heart: One Woman’s Story of Being Struck by Lightning intersperses personal narrative and scientific research.
After nature writer Gretel Ehrlich was struck by lightning near her Wyoming ranch and almost died, she embarked on a painstaking and visionary journey back to the land of the living. With the help of an extraordinary cardiologist and the companionship of her beloved dog Sam, she avidly explores the natural and spiritual world to make sense of what happened to her.
Memoirs in Verse
Lucinda Watson’s The Favorite is a collection of poems spanning a three part narrative which revolves around family.
The Favorite is, in Cig Harvey’s words, “an arrow to the heart.” Its sixty-four poems are gently shaped into three parts as Watson leads readers into her childhood’s world of social privilege, recognizes the psychological costs inhabitants pay, and demonstrates a wide and wonderful range of reactions.
Marilyn Nelson’s How I Discovered Poetry is a book of poetry which tells the story of a poet’s journey of her craft.
Marilyn Nelson tells the story of her development as an artist and young woman through fifty eye-opening poems. Readers are given an intimate portrait of her growing self-awareness and artistic inspiration along with a larger view of the world around her: racial tensions, the Cold War era, and the first stirrings of the feminist movement.
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